Find the Love You Want :

Most people think that luck is the reason they discover the love of their lives. Others believe that they must spend countless hours and thousands of dollars searching the Web and dating services in order to locate Mr. or Miss Right. They could not be more wrong! If you want to find the love of your life, then you would do well to think deeply about and apply the following guidelines.

How to Find the Love You Want

What is Romantic Love?
The intense heart-filling, soul shaking, physically electrifying experience that occurs when the right person appears at the right time and transforms how we see ourselves, our possibilities and the world. Romantic love energizes our mind, heart, soul and body. If we are able and willing to fully let go to the process, it will teach us about ecstasy, surrender and both healthy selflessness and self-love . Our ability to find and sustain a healthy, high-quality romantic love relationship is directly related to our ability to create and sustain a high quality of self-love. The good news and the bad news about relationships is this: We get the love we think we deserve.

What Is Healthy Self-Love?
The willingness to deeply care about ourselves, no matter who we are and what we have done. Healthy self-love gives us the ability to forgive ourselves, to accept ourselves, to acknowledge both our positive and negative attributes, to receive nurture, support and love from others and from life itself.

Healthy self-love is the exact opposite of extreme selfishness and narcissism. It makes us capable of real compassion for others and sensitizes us to their needs. Healthy self-love is essential to the process of becoming an actualized, whole individual.

1. The single most important reason that individuals do not find the love of their lives is that they do not begin and end with their own hearts.

2. The single most important reason that individuals do not keep the love of their lives is that their hearts cannot embrace and contain it.

3. A relationship is not a matter of right time, right place or percentages -- and it is certainly not like buying a new car.

4. The real truth about finding and keeping great love is exactly the opposite of the common idea. The real truth is this: As within, so without.

5. Most of us attempt to come to love as an external thing. We go out in search of it! We look for it out there and imagine that we have to find the special person in that special place.

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