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Make a Great Impression :
Aug 08, 2007
Curb Conversational Narcissism
He’s talking about his new Subaru, which reminds you of the battle you waged -- and won -- with that smarmy Hertz-rental-car dealer in Miami last month. This “faux segue” is a big no-no, says psychologist and business consultant Valerie White. “We are tempted to share impressive things about ourselves, but the one idea you should keep in mind is ‘How am I making the other person feel?’ ” Actively encourage others to talk about themselves, and respond genuinely -- without bringing it back to you. Don’t Betray Your Anxiety
“If you’re not quick-witted or well-versed in certain subjects, you can still make a great impression,” White says. Just focus on the other person. This in turn will take the pressure off you. However, avoid interrogating a new acquaintance. If you’re jittery, control movements such as leg twitching. And remember to speak slowly -- nervousness makes us talk too fast. Getting fit will have a huge impact on all areas of your life! Are you ready to get in great shape fast? eDiets fitness pros and expert nutritionists can help you get there. Sign up for one of our 24 personalized plans -- you won't need a gym or fancy equipment -- just your computer and eDiets. Click here to get started TODAY! Fake a Sunny Mood
“Be yourself” is solid first-impression advice from cognitive scientists and self-help gurus alike. But it’s worth suppressing a bad mood when you meet someone new. While you know you are just experiencing a momentary state, a new acquaintance will take you for a full-time complainer. “There is a contagion effect,” White says. “A bad mood will bring the other person down, too. Try to start off well , and then share what’s bothering you.” The Eyes Have It
If you want to get to know a stranger, break with body language conventions by catching her eye for more than a second. When you first meet someone, author and lecturer Nicholas Boothman says, focus on your eye contact, your smile and your posture. “If you notice somebody’s eye color and you say ‘great’ to yourself, you will actually be smiling, and you will give off a super mood.” Get in Sync
Adjusting your posture, voice, words and gestures to match those of a new acquaintance is critical, Boothman says, because we are attracted to others who are just like us. “People respond when you speak at their pace,” White agrees. To establish an instant rapport, mirror your new friend’s head nods and tilts.
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