Rev Up a Stalled Sex Life: 10 Tips! :

Note: This article contains frank sexual language.

What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom.

And that could very well be the problem for many couples. There are plenty of people out there who are afflicted with one issue or another when it comes to sex. And sweeping these problems under the rug has become all too common.

Despite society's obsession with sex, when it comes to discussing our own woes between the sheets, we have a tendency to become very tight-lipped.

Well, the doctor is in, and he's made it his mission to help those folks who are struggling -- sexually speaking.

Although Ian Kerner, Ph.D. has battled his own sexual demons, he's not just speaking from experience. He holds a doctorate in clinical sexology and is the author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (HarperCollins)."I suffered with sexual dysfunction and inadequacy," he tells eDiets from his New York office. "I tried a lot of different ways of dealing, including sex therapy. I was so inspired and transformed by the experience that when I had to change careers and start down a new path, I decided to study human sexuality and sex therapy."

In addition to being on the faculty of the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists, Kerner is certified by the American Board of Sexology and is also a member of The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality and their sister-organization, The American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

Since working out the kinks in his own sex life, Kerner, who’s happily married, has been counseling others for the last five years. These days he’s most commonly treating couples in their 20s and 30s.

Common maladies among women include: no enjoyment from sex, faking orgasms or lack of orgasms in their relationship. Men, on the other hand, suffer from premature ejaculation or some sort of sexual anxiety that prevents them from being in a committed relationship.

Couples often are afflicted with mismatched libidos, low desire, infidelity or sex ruts. Kerner points out that when the "honeymoon period" of the relationship ends, the thrill is gone. People might think there is something wrong with them, but it's simply a matter of learning how to move from the initial phase into a long-term committed relationship with an exciting sex life.

You don’t necessarily have to seek out the help of a sex therapist right off the bat, he says. There are measures you can take to improve the quality of your sex life.

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